COACHING & MENTORING fOR REAL PEOPLE WITH REAL F*CKING PROBLEMS
I FUCKED UP!
Review by: M.J, Luxembourg
I gave birth to my son at 17. I wasn’t just absent for him — I was a bad mother his whole life. I rejected him, I watched him struggle, I watched him unable to develop self-love. He nearly lost his life, and still, I couldn’t be there.
Then, at 65, I came across Alek. He showed me, in a way no one else ever had, what it truly means to parent. He understood me because he carried a story similar to my son’s — and that’s why his words cut through my walls.
Through the work we did, I found the courage to contact my son. It wasn’t a long call, maybe ten minutes. But behind it were hours of self-growth. In those minutes, I was finally able to tell him the truth. He heard me. And even more importantly — I heard him. And for the first time, I was also able to hear myself.
We’re not in touch now, even after that call. But I know he got me. I know he felt me. And for the first time in my life, I forgave myself. That forgiveness has set me free.
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As a parent, you are both the victim and the aggressor in the same person — and that’s what you need to understand!
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The Cycle of Childhood Trauma and a Painful Life
We want a child. But why? Sometimes because we feel lonely. Sometimes because “that’s just what you do.” Sometimes because we hope a baby will fill the emptiness inside. Some even use it to keep a relationship alive. But very few stop to ask the real questions: 👉 If this baby had a choice, would it choose me as a parent? would it choose my mother or father ? 👉 What can I truly offer this child — beyond food and shelter? Because love alone is not enough. 👉 What am I bringing to the table? If parenting were a job interview, would I be hired for this project?
The Copy-Paste Parenting
The baby arrives. Suddenly, we’re parents. And how do we raise them? In the only way we know: by repeating what was done to us. We copy the patterns of our own upbringing — the good, the bad, and the unbearable.
The Wounds Spill Over
If we had a loving, safe, conscious childhood, that’s what we pass on. But if we grew up in chaos, neglect, shame, aggression, or silence, that too spills into the child’s life — whether we want it or not.
The New Adult Child
That child grows up carrying the pain we never healed. They live with rejection, anger, addiction, self-doubt, or fear — the same way we did. And one day, they become parents themselvesWant to know what your child could become if you don’t heal? Go stand in a central train station. Look at the lost, the broken, the addicted — still screaming their parents’ names but never being heard — the ones drifting with no direction. That’s the preview.
The Cycle Repeats
Unless something breaks the chain, they raise their kids with the same wounds. Another generation inherits the pain.
New or soon to be parents
Imagine this: when you have a child, you don’t just give them your smile, your eyes, or your laugh. You also give them the pain you never dealt with.
If you never felt safe, they will feel it too. If you carry shame, they will copy it. If you fight for love, they will learn to do the same. Children don’t get a choice — they absorb everything.
That’s why healing before or while you are a parent is not a “nice idea,” it’s a duty. Because what you don’t heal, your child will have to heal from you.
👉 My mission is simple: help parents and soon-to-be parents face their wounds, break the toxic repeat, and give their children a safe, strong start instead of a burden.
So, how can I help you — or both of you?
Simple: book a free call and let’s talk about where you are right now in this beautiful adventure. We’ll look at what needs to be faced, see if we vibe, and from there create a programme that truly fits your needs — whether just for you alone or together with your partner.
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For Parents of Adult Children
👉 It is never too late to repair a broken bond.
Even if your son or daughter is already an adult with children of their own — as long as you’re alive, there is still time. True forgiveness doesn’t start with “I’m sorry.” It starts with taking responsibility for the life you brought into this world.
Your child doesn’t just need words. They need to understand you — why you weren’t there, why you hurt them, why you failed to guide them. They need to see you step forward with honesty, not excuses.
And trust me — as the adult child of a deeply neglectful mother, I can tell you this: we children grow up with radar. We feel the bullshit instantly. We know when you’re lying. And we know when you finally speak from vulnerability and truth.
But here’s the part most parents miss: this isn’t just about your child. It’s about you. Carrying unresolved wounds, guilt, and shame has probably cost you decades of joy, love, and inner peace. Healing doesn’t just free your child — it frees you. It gives you back your own life, the chance to finally feel whole, to live without constantly hiding from the shadows of your past.
I will help you find those words. I will help you face that truth. I will help you take your place as the parent your child always needed — and as the person you yourself always deserved to be. Because healing yourself is not just the first step to helping them heal — it is also the first step to reclaiming your own life.
Worst case? We have a real conversation — and you walk away having learned something.
Best case? It’s the start of you finally breathing again.
You don’t have to carry this alone. I work online, worldwide — in English, German, French, and Luxembourgish. And if we click, don’t worry about money. I charge depending on your income, and if you have very little or none right now, we’ll sort it out.
👉 The only thing that matters is that you take the first step.
IF YOU’RE LUCKY, YOU MIGHT CATCH ME TODAY. BOOK AND FIND OUT.
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FACT!
The formative years (0–8) decide so much of who your child becomes. In this time the brain is wiring itself, and by the age of eight most emotional patterns and coping strategies are already formed. Children don’t filter, they absorb — your tone, your reactions, your silence, even your chaos. What you don’t say becomes part of them. In these years a child learns either: “I am safe, loved, and guided” or “I must protect myself, hide, and fight for love.” Trauma sticks early: rejection, neglect, aggression, or shame don’t just hurt, they shape how a child sees themselves and the world. This is why cycles can still be broken while your child is little — because what you do (or don’t do) in these early years becomes their inner voice for life. 👉 The big truth: heal yourself now, and your child won’t have to heal from you later.
IF YOU’RE LUCKY, YOU MIGHT CATCH ME TODAY. BOOK AND FIND OUT.
(END OF YEAR PROMO FROM 75 TO 49 EUROS)
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Why most people can't find a good coach
1. “Coaching is too expensive or takes forever.”
👉 My approach: You pay depending on your income — so anyone can afford me. And if money gets in the way, we’ll find a solution together.
2. “I can’t find the right coach for me.”
👉 My approach: I’ve lived it, not just studied it. Real talk. Real fit. That’s why I offer a free 30-minute call before we truly engage — so you know if we vibe.
3. “I always fall back into old patterns.”
👉 My mandatory approach: Coaching doesn’t stop after the main process. I require continuous support for at least 3–12 months (minimum one session per month). Because real change only sticks with consistency.
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Accept that something is off
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Stop The Blame Game & Take Responsibility
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Start being Kind to Yourself
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Get Help & Allow Yourself Invest in Yourself
